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Greatest Enemy is Distraction- 3 Approaches to Change

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God, change the things I can change. Accept the things I can’t change. Give me the wisdom to be able to see the difference in the two.

I get really intrigued when people say, all you have to do in order to change is just do it! While I strongly believe that action is required for change, it can be a very difficult feat. I have noticed that people who try to take on a new habit they’ve never experienced, doing so is actually a complex issue. I think it is important to understand why change does not occur. I have been studying a lot of Wyatt Woodsmall, President of Advanced Behavioral Modeling, Inc., teachings and in one of his lectures he mentions the four enemies of change. They are the following:

1) “Chance to” change, which means the system that a person is under does not allow change.

2) “Want to” change. One must have the willingness to change. If there is no motivation, there is no change.

3) “How to” change, which means they lack the training. We don’t know what to do or how to do it.

4) “Able to” change, which simply means we are unable to do it.

 

So now, the question is, what are the magical three approaches to facilitate change? First and foremost, lets be clear, the greatest enemy is distraction. In order to evolve and go to the next level you need to figure out where you are wasting your time, and re-purpose that time, so…

1) STOP WAISTING TIME ON DISTRACTIONS!! It is super critical to focus. We often think that the more options, the more possibilities, the better off we are. This is not the case. People get caught up in the alternatives and are distracted from the most important possibility.

2) One of the fastest ways to accomplish behavior change is to find a master/mentor/coach and say, “I am facing this challenge. Will you help me figure this out? Learn the way an expert does something, then duplicate that through the system. This is called “modeling.

3) Learn to align the head and the heart. Woodsmall describes this as the *Parts Alignment: He says, “There is something we want to do, and we are capable of doing it… yet we don’t do it. We don’t do it because a part of us wants to do it, while the other parts don’t. The parts that don’t want to do it is the part that is most in charge”.

 

More on Parts Alignment in my next post. I use a very easy circle of life wheel that discovers the parts of are missing, and how to infuse joy and satisfaction into your life.

Until next time love.

Call me when you can.

914-648-5926

 

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Lead you to Live Free, Weigh less and Stay Energized

me ann handstand fallingSo, lately I have been heavily studying advanced learning and teaching technologies with Eban Pegan and Wyatt Woodsmall, and this weeks learning topic was on the enemies of change. Eban and Wyatt explain that there are four challenges to behavior change. But non of these four challenges were apparent to me until I began to notice certain automatic tendencies that prevented me from having a productive day, week, month, year and/or life! I asked myself a very simple, yet profoundly important question to help me narrow in on the top three distractions I currently face. What am I wasting my time on? What am I doing, when I am not doing what I need to do? And this is what I came up with; my top three time wasters are reading emails, browsing Facebook and overloading my brain with information audios and videos. So I immediately thought, well, l need to use several approaches to implement change. I go a bit deeper on this topic in another post titled, “Greatest Enemy is Distraction- 3 Approaches to Change“. It is important to understand that if learning equals behavior change, then the vehicle that makes it happen is yourself. So why not design a life that will make these three approaches well worth it? Here I gathered 10 tips, or what I like to call life practices, that keep me at ease and engaged in my productive, happy and  fulfilling life.

  1. Feed your heart with the most important food. Friends and family, physical activity, spirituality, and a satisfying career feed us. Lack of these foods create over-reliance on edible food.
  2. Drink LOTS of water. Most people are chronically dehydrated. We often mistake thirst for hunger. If you feel hungry between meals, drink a glass of water before giving into cravings. Limit or eliminate liquid calories from soda and juice.
  3. Eat a plant-based diet. Plant foods are typically lower in fat and calories and higher in filling fiber than meat, dairy, and processed foods, while providing loads of essential nutrients.
  4. Chew your food well. Digestion begins in the mouth. By thoroughly chewing your food, your body will better assimilate nutrients; you will also slow down your eating. It takes about 20 minutes for your brain to register that it is full. By slowing your eating, you’ll feel full and satisfied on less food.
  5. Eat real food. Avoid products with high-fructose corn syrup or a long list of unpronounceable ingredients. They tend to be highly processed, lacking the nutrients your body needs, and are often loaded with empty calories.
  6. Eat breakfast. Skipping meals causes your blood sugar levels to peak and dip, affecting your energy and moods. It can also cause overeating later on because you’re so hungry.
  7. Eat mindfully. Turn off the TV. Get away from the computer. Sit down and savor the food you are eating with no distractions.
  8. Get moving. Do any type of physical activity every day. Find movement or exercise you enjoy.
  9. Sleep, rest and relax. When you are sleep-deprived or stressed, your body will crave energy, causing cravings for sugary snacks and caffeine as an energy boost.
  10. Schedule fun time. Boredom and stress can lead to overeating. Make sure to take time to laugh, play, and participate in activities that bring you joy.

Until next time love.

Call me when you can.

914-648-5926